Homeschooling Questions and Answers
Thank you for your questions on homeschooling and I will try to answer each, starting with what seems most urgent. You can also email me via my website contact page.
Desiree was concerned she was “doing it all wrong.” Believe me, we have all felt that way whether our kids were homeschooled or in school. I still occasionally think about the forks not taken and our son is 29 years old! To quote my book, Homeschooling: Why and How, Chapter 2, Answers to Commonly Asked Questions, ”
But I still have doubts.
And well you should! Consider my situation: I homeschooled our son all but a year and a half of his time from kindergarten through twelfth grade. I founded a homeschool support group. I’ve written lots of articles published locally and nationally. I’ve counseled countless parents regarding problems with their kids and with school officials. I’ve done battle with the state superintendent of schools. I’ve given homeschool lectures and seminars. And I’ve had doubts and fears regularly, and still do, even now. I even wrote an article titled, “I, too, Cry in the Night.”
I have come to accept that doubts are an integral part of homeschooling and parenting, of life itself, and not just for those of us on the road less traveled. Parents whose children go to school worry about their children, whether they are safe in school, and they wonder if they should be doing something differently. Only the arrogant have the luxury of always being certain that their way is the only true way.
The rest of us will all, to some degree, question our choices, and for that, we can be grateful. Painful though it may seem at times, it is by questioning our beliefs that we can open doors to growth. Even our most cherished beliefs—indeed, especially our cherished beliefs—warrant regular examination to see if they really are true or if we are ready to outgrow them. We try to do the best we can with what we know and to accept that we will make mistakes. When we lose our way, special friends and family will understand and support us. We can consult books and magazine articles chronicling the lives of those who have been through the same trials that we are experiencing. And in the quiet of prayer or meditation, we may find that truth expresses itself.
Ultimately, we do not control the destinies of our children—nor should we. We learn to live with a certain level of doubt while doing the best we can and working to strengthen our faith in our efforts and in the children we are raising.
(I will do a separate pose for How and When to start. And as to field trips, if you will email me via the contact page, I will respond with an attachment of a list of the field trips we did over an 8 year period. It will be plenty to keep you busy having fun and learning!)