Homeschooling Why and How

On Letting Go

Back from Heavenly Hana and it took a bit to catch up. Meanwhile, I have been seeing the vital importance of letting go and wanted to hold off on the book posts to post this quote:

“Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be.” ~Sonia Ricotti

Homeschooling/Parenting (there isn’t really much difference between the two), I have come to see, is a continual process of letting go. Starting at birth when our one body becomes two, letting go of the hand so the child can walk, letting go to say good night when he has his first sleep away, saying bye as they go off to college or other world adventures, and it never stops as we watch them struggle to do things their own way, often leaving ours behind. And having to have that faith in what will be.

It’s analogous to the whole sharing thing of toddler times. If they never experience something as their own, something they are not made to share, how can they learn to share? If they own nothing, they are not sharing their own stuff but that of others. So in letting them own, we teach them to share. Likewise, in letting them go, we free them to discover our connections for themselves.

A favorite book of mine, read many times, by Judith Viorst, has a title that says it all: Necessary Losses: The Loves, Illusions, Dependencies, and Impossible Expectations That All of Us Have to Give Up in Order to Grow

And this from a favorite parenting book, Between Parent and Teenager by Haim Ginott: As parents, our need is to be needed. As teenagers, their need is not to need us. The conflict is real; we experience it daily. This can be our finest hour. To let go when we want to hold on, requires utmost generosity and love.

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